Friday, October 30, 2009


The truth is I am frustrated, sad, let down but know that my baby is healthy.

Its hard to think about planning, getting everything ready and just feeling prepared when we have no idea what we are having. Lots of people choose this route but for me and my husband we really want to know. The baby is breech and not moving, he or she is sitting on its feet with its knees against its chest. I think this baby thinks we need this extra stress and excitement in our lives. If this says anything about the babies personality we might be in for some trouble.

I have thought about paying for another ultrasound, going to a place that does 3D/4D and have also heard of a new Gender Predictor Pee Test. Is any of it worth it, will my husband come home tonight and talk names so that at least that is off of my stress list. No matter what I do there is not guarantee they will be able to tell us.

It's not even the not knowing that is killing me, its how bad I wanted to know and need to know that is killing me. If that makes any sense at all. I didn't even think that the baby wouldn't show, the baby would be stubborn. I just thought we would go in and come out knowing boy or girl, blue or pink!

We are talking names and I don't know when or how we will ever pick. Its going to have to be one boy name and one girl name. Chad is convinced its a girl!

Stay tuned tomorrow for some 20 week belly pictures and Halloween Pictures!


Stephanie said...

Oh yes you are going to have a handful when this one comes's showing it's personality already :) Won't it be such fun!!?!!

Seriously though....if you're stressed out about it being breech...don't be! Caleb was breech for a long time and I was so worried about it...I stressed and stressed until I almost made myself sick..but they can turn up until about 36 weeks or so and he did thank goodness!

Now for the sex which is probably why you're mostly stressed right now....I'll be honest I can't imagine not knowing. I have heard of people that did not want to know but how in the world do you plan if you don't know. However you really have no choice right now so you just have to do the best you can. I know it'll be okay no matter what!!!!!

If it were me I think I would try and get another ultrasound just to see if it was possible at that time to tell...but that's me.

Meant to be a mom said...

The 3d, 4d ultrasounds are awesome. Maybe if you wait a couple weeks and then go do that they might be able to tell what it is? Sorry you couldn't see. I understand exactly what you mean about not being able to plan anything if you don't know. Hopefully you get to find out so you can start getting things together.

Lexie Loo & Dylan Too said...

I'm sorry your little one was being stubborn. I didn't find out the sex of either of my babies, but I can imagine how frustrated you must be if you really want to know but can't find out. Hang in there. Everything WILL fall into place.

Candice said...

If you really want to know, yes get another ultrasound. I was glad to know. I felt I could bond more. But you hit the nail on the head when you said the baby's health is the important part, so try to keep it in perspective! Honestly, I'd be more upset by the breech position. I have heard good thing about the pee tests. Good luck with whatever you decide.

Emily said...

I found out with all of mine, but I have heard from everyone who was "surprised" that it was totally worth it. That moment in the delivery room is supposedly just unbelievable. It *almost* makes me wish I had gone the surprise route! :) Just do a gender neutral room. And maybe something fun like a "Meet the Baby Shower" after the baby is born. That way if she/he is a boy you can get boy clothes for gifts, etc.
Hang in there...and happy halloween!

Stephanie said...

Ok, I obviously haven't been around for awhile because I didn't even know you were pregnant!! Congrats!! What a bummer about your shy little baby :) Maybe he/she's just waiting to surprise you! Hang in there...I know the waiting is hard, especially if you are a control freak like me! So happy for you Erin!! Can't wait to see what happens....

Anna said...

If it makes you feel any better, we still haven't picked a name either, and I'm due in a month (and we know it's a boy).

Good luck hun!