Saturday, February 12, 2011

NEED.WANT.DESERVE

Most of the time these three things don't really go together that well.  We might think they do but really they don't.  We can always try to convince ourselves that they go together but when it comes down to it with most things I don't think that they do. 

Right now I am convinving myself and trying to convince the hubby that 

I WANT to go on a vacation with him.

I NEED to go on a vacation with him.

I DESERVE to go on a vacation with him.

We WANT this vacation as a couple.

We NEED this vacation as a couple.

We DESERVE this vacation as a couple.

You see Chad and I have always been Parents.  We have always been husband and wife.  Chad and I never got a honeymoon and we got married after we had our first daughter Alex.  We never had the opportunity to be Husband and Wife instead we where Parents.  Though we love and adore being parents, mommy and daddy we also enjoy being husband and wife or Chad and Erin. 

We don't find time to sneak away often at all and just be adults and be husband and wife.  
Our relationship sruggles in that area.  I have a hard time trusting people with my children.  My mom watches my girls atleast once a week so we hate to even ask my mom and step dad to watch them on the weekends.  Chads parents live 3 hours awake and when they come down for some reason we never make time to go out alone and plan a date because we want to spend time with them.  We don't see my dad often enough to where I really feel comfortable dropping the girls off with him and leaving for a few hours.  I would love for my brother and his wife to watch the girls but they live 30 minutes away and always have plans on the weekends.  I do have friends and neighbors that would be fine with watching them but I hate to be a burden.

YOU SEE ALL THAT ABOVE ^ ? 
EXCUSE AFTER EXCUSE AFTER EXCUSE.

They may all be excused but it is all the truth.  My husband and I just don't make time for ourselves as a couple.  We are great parents and are kids ALWAYS come first but to be honest I think we both need to put each other first more often.  We need to figure out ways to be creative and make each other feel special.  We need to do this for our marriage and for our children.  We owe it to ourselves to be a couple and act like a couple every so often instead of just parents.  We owe it to ourselves to let loose, act young and have a good old time.

But another excuse that we will ALWAYS have is MONEY.

Chad and I never went on a honeymoon. 
Sure we went to Duluth for a night but we hated being away from Alex when she was so young so it was almost as though we didn't even get to enjoy it because we really weren't ready to be away from her.

  Now I am ready for it more then ever. 
I am ready to leave my kids behind for 4 or 5 nights and take off with my husband.  I am ready to just be husband and wife.  I am ready to not have to worry about my two amazing little girls for a few days and focus on my husband and on our marriage.

NO MY MARRIAGE IS NOT ABOUT TO FALL APART.
NO I AM NOT WORRIED ABOUT MY HUSBAND LEAVING ME.
NO I AM NOT THINKING ABOUT LEAVING MY HUSBAND.
( just to clear all those thoughts up that might be going on in your heads )

I just NEED, WANT and DESERVE to do this with my husband.  This may be selfish of me but right now I don't really care and I am going to be selfish because truly I want my husband all to myself for a few days.  

But will it happen.  

NO!

Why.. well because we have a mortgage to pay, debt that needs to start being paid off, mouths to feed and jobs that need to be worked.

BUT A GIRL CAN DREAM RIGHT!

One day I will get this vacation with my husband ALL ALONE! 
JUST HIM AND I!

 

3 comments:

Heather said...

You will! And you definitely deserve it! I hope you find a way to do it asap! :)

Paige said...

You do deserve this and you WILL get it! I hope this works out, asap for y'all!

Candice said...

Well, maybe for now instead of a vacation, you can schedule regular date nights where you go out alone as a couple and focus on each other. You're right, it's so important!!