Wednesday, November 13, 2013

Online...

The Dating Scene ....
Scary, nerve wrecking, intimidating...
But yet a little exciting!

How do you meet people now days...
Where do you find someone you want to...
Date, get into a relationship with, introduce your children to...
Bring home to your parents/friends and maybe even marry.

The bars, mutual friends, at work, church...
at a sporting event, online....

It's not that its hard to meet people...
but it is hard to meet people you want to date...

I definetly am not one to go to a bar...
and think about bringing someone home,
or if they are dating material...
The bar is not my scene.

I really didn't have any guy friends...
that I was interested in...
or that I thought "maybe", "possibly".

Most my friends are married, or in serious relationships,
So they aren't looking to go out and "live it up"
and the people they know aren't right for me or they
wouldn't dare set me up with them.

A friend once told me...
Enjoy this time being single...
and when you date be picky, be really picky...
and do not settle until you know that person can
 make you and your girls truly happy!

You see...
 I have my girls, my friends and my family...
I am looking for my forever, my partner and my best friend...
so being picky was exactly what I was going to do.

My mom once asked me why I wanted love so bad again...
She said the things that I just stated above...
Life is good when you have those things...
no life is great!

You see, Love is different with each person..
and Love with a partner is so incredibly different...
then love with children or family or friends...
I missed and wanted that love.

I craved that love between partners...
that love between best friends...
I wanted and needed it so bad...
but only with the right person!

But dating, It's not my thing...
scares me to death....
and I do not act like myself!

So I went out of my comfort zone...
way way way way way way
out of my comfort zone.

I made a profile on Plenty Of Fish!
I know its a shitty dating site...
made for hooks up.

But through all the one line messages,
You're Beautiful, Hello Pretty Lady....

The late night messages,
We all know what they want at that time of the night...

The the rude guys,
you can't message back, just like all the other girls...

There was a few guys worth messaging back,
and one guy worth stepping out of my comfort zone...
putting aside my nerves the best I could...
and going on a date with him.

His first message was simply perfect,
I could tell he had read my profile...
and though he had no picture...
I took the risk and messaged him back!

The conversation came natural, never felt forced, the questions came from both of us,
the smiles and the giggles started right away for me...
and with every message I sent, every time I hit that send button...
 I eagerly waited for his response, hoping that it didn't take too long!

So after hours of messaging back and forth...
he asked if we could switch to text...
Through exceitment I said yes
under one condition...
a picture for my number!

And with the first text came the first picture...
Pleasantly surprised I said...
"you're kind of cute"!

With a week ahead of millions of texts,
staying up way to late getting to know each other...
we planned our first date, a walk...
who knew a simple walk could be so amazing...
the best first date I had ever been on...

And even through the pacing, the shy glance away,
the giggles and the not exactly opening up...
He had a blast, I had a blast and he asked for a 2nd date...
That happened just two days later.
and well.... the rest is history!!!

So sometimes...
If you put yourself in a situation...
where you are challenged to step out of your comfort zone...
You can meet the most amazing person in the world...
Your entire life can change right before your eyes...
and you might possibly fall in love!

So now you know.. we met online...
a country boy and a city girl...
falling crazy in love!

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